Throughout the last 10 years the kids have had the same doctor. I like him. He's good at what he does. But he is really basic at what he does. I am SO ready for a change. Our DAN doctor is two and a half hours away and doesn't accept Medicaid, so we can't just get up and go at the drop of a hat to see him. I feel like after ten years we should have a better relationship with our local pediatrician than we have now. He knows all of our kids and their challenges. But still, there seems to be a lack of understanding or trust in us as parents. I think he is just "doing" his job and doesn't have the interest or compassion anymore-that hopefully-he once had. He never asks how Ryder is doing, even after three visits of Ryder screaming in pain the month before. He doesn't call to see how he is doing; nothing. I feel like he is not listening to me. I have written a letter to him, but have yet to send it. How do you get doctors to listen to parents? I've only had one pediatrician actually listen to me.
When Mercedes was a baby, she was chronically sick with unexplained high fevers. To make a long story short, I knew something was wrong: that it wasn't just stomach pains, headaches, toothaches, etc. I took her to at least six different doctors and finally, to her first female pediatrician. And this doctor actually asked me; what I thought was wrong. I told her I thought she was having UTI's. She was tested, and lo and behold, the tests came back with positive results. Her WBC count was over 30,000. She was a very sick little girl. She was diagnosed with Bilateral Kidney Reflux and at age two and a half she underwent surgery to repair it. It worked. She had only one infection after that, and now we are free and clear, no pun intended.
I've often wondered about this trial that we went through. She was our firstborn, and we were pretty clueless about a lot of things. I thing the Lord prepares us little by little, step by step, precept upon precept, for further trials and adversity, because that in the end, is what molds us and refines us.